(1 Corinthians 13:4 KJV) Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,In modern language that deals with patience, kindness, jealousy, bragging and arrogance. I still need a lot of growth in these areas.
I am finding that after 40 years of marriage the advanced studies are just as important.
(1 Corinthians 13:5 NAS77) does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,I can act patiently but it is hard not to keep a balance sheet of how many times I have been wronged. It is such simple things as I noticed this morning. When I leave a dish on the counter it is like I have held a Woodstock festival in the kitchen with all the trash involved. When my wife leaves a growing pile of stuff in the sink it is because she is so busy and tired. I have learned not to comment on things like that. I am trying to learn not to keep a record in my soul. Petty but real.
One reason this is so important is that we have a natural tendency to be super sensitive to our pain and callous to the pain we cause. God knows this so He tells us to stop keeping a balance sheet.
Love does not act like an accountant.
homo unius libri