Welcome to Varied Expressions of Worship

Welcome to Varied Expressions of Worship

This blog will be written from an orthodox Christian point of view. There may be some topic that is out of bounds, but at present I don't know what it will be. Politics is a part of life. Theology and philosophy are disciplines that we all participate in even if we don't think so. The Bible has a lot to say about economics. How about self defense? Is war ethical? Think of all the things that someone tells you we should not touch and let's give it a try. Everything that is a part of life should be an expression of worship.

Keep it courteous and be kind to those less blessed than you, but by all means don't worry about agreeing. We learn more when we get backed into a corner.

Friday, April 29, 2011

Opus 2011-138, Discernment Watch: Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

At this point we have an extensive series of books branching out from this basic title.  Long ago I jotted down a quote that started my thinking.  It has been so long I don’t have any idea what page it came from.
“...there are women who have a personality that avoids conflict or confrontation by denying themselves.  On the surface they seem to have a good relationship, but the husband complains that she does not seem to be happy.  That is his only complaint.  The wife will say ‘We have a great relationship, except I am so depressed.’” 
Then the author goes on and talks about the problem being that she is denying herself.  Our current post-modern culture embraces this line of thinking.

The Bible has a different standard regarding self denial.  Jesus spoke very clearly.
(Luke 9:23 KJV)  And he said to them all, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me.
Since Jesus said it, as Christians we start by accepting this as a truth.  There is another truth which Paul gets into defining love in Philippians 2 where he talks about love as an attitude that does what is best for the other person.  I will use the NASB since it is much more clear to me.
(Philippians 2:3-4 NASB)  Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.
It might seem that on the surface these are the same, but not necessarily.  Jesus is talking about our response to God.  Paul is talking about how we relate to other people.  Many times when we take statements which are designed to explain our relationship with God and we apply them to our relationships with people, we run into major problems. 

For instance, when Jesus speaks he is saying that we are saying “no” to ourselves so we can say “yes” to God.  This is always right.  This is always appropriate. 

Paul’s guidance gets a little more tricky.  He is talking about us denying ourselves to do what is right for the other person.  You are looking after their interests.  This does not mean doing it their way.  It does not mean being manipulated.  Doing what is right for the other person may sometimes mean saying “yes” to yourself and saying “no” to them.  Since we are dealing with people it is not right that they always get their way.  It is not healthy for them to be around people who always let them have what they want.  I would stress that the verses in Philippians don't say give people what they want, but give them what they need.  There is a big difference there. 

The point that the Bible is making is that putting the other person first can be healthy and fulfilling.  I can understand that a garden variety pagan might think it is wrong, but we march to a different drummer.  I vote for the Jesus way.  How about you?

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