I believe that hospitality (5382) is a spiritual gift. It is not on all lists, but I think it is part of the building up of the body of Christ. One reason I can see this as a gift is because of the verse that follows this one,
(1 Peter 4:10 KJV) As every man hath received the gift, even so minister the same one to another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.Hospitality is an interesting word. It is a compound word in the Greek made up of two words you would be familiar with. The first is philios, or brotherly love. We see it in words like filial and names like Philadelphia. The second part is xenos which means stranger. We use the word in xenophobia and such.
I think this word would be the direct opposite of xenophobia which is directly out of the Greek. Xenophobia means “fear of strangers.” philoxenos means “love of stranger.” One is the standard of the world; the other, the church. They are only a few letters apart.
There is a bit of confusion on this gift. Once when teaching on spiritual gifts I had the class take a survey on spiritual gifts. A large number of them came up with the gift of hospitality yet one of the big weaknesses of that church was that they did not reach out to new people. Something did not add up. Much of the incongruity came from understanding the meaning of the gift. Hospitality is not knowing how to set a table and which fork to use. It is more an attitude toward reaching out and caring about others.
A good example would be Mary and Martha. The gift of hospitality is not the person who knows how to use the good china and who knows how to put a meal on time. That was Martha. She was concerned with the production. Hospitality is in the hearts of people who make others comfortable in their home. That was more Mary.
When you are greeted by someone with the gift of hospitality, you come, you sit and you feel like you belong, not like you are an imposition. If someone has the gift of hospitality the people eating with you don’t worry about the right fork or the quality of the food, but enjoy the fellowship that has been established along with the food. Tuna casserole is enough when the gift of hospitality is present. Of course the person with the gift would be sensitive to the fact that you hate tuna casserole and would not serve it, but that is another story.
homo unius libri