Marriage has some real trials. Let me share a recent exchange. We were disagreeing on how we remembered a moment from our past. I said,“I could be totally wrong on that...” She responded, “You are.” Typical exchange.
This time I laughed. All she did was agree with me. Isn’t that what I want? Other times I have had different reactions. Two different emotions usually emotions emerge in me at these moments. First, anger. I struggle to not get mad. I am getting better at that as time goes on.
Second, to not be “humble.” For years I have assumed that if someone disagreed with me, I must be wrong. I would get introspective and analytical. I would find all kinds of errors in my thinking. I am coming to realize that I am not the only one who has errors in their thinking. I am realizing that true humility is not a matter of putting yourself down but being willing to see truth.
Sometimes the truth is that I am wrong. I really have no trouble with that. Sometimes I am right. That is startling. I am trying to live with it.
She is trying to live with me. Pray for her.
homo unius libri
Sounds like you could use a little prayer, too. After all, you're BOTH married!
ReplyDeleteWhy can I not resist a hearty "Amen" to that?
ReplyDeleteGrace and peace.